You shouldn't be able to request a rematch after a win

@RoShamPro said in #1:
> In my opinion it is bad manners to ask for a rematch
It seems that someone ill mannered is teaching you manners..lol..
There is no point of switching off rematch option,you can just move on and it's not at all disturbing like the takeback pop up....

You can be of this opinion, but then you have a crappy opinion.

I thin its good like it is jet

Chess is like dancing. Challenges & rematches is all about feelings. Some only want one dance, not two.
So we have to adapt to the behaviors of others. Maybe once was enough. Maybe it was the lack of social skill that prevented from getting a second game. Did the player press one of the chat buttons before pressing the request for a rematch? Socializing is important. That chat buttons: GG, WP, TY, GTG or Bye are the smiles. Smile before asking a rematch. If one of those buttons are not fitting then maybe asking for a rematch might not be a good thing.

What if a player remains after the game is over? They might be waiting for an offer. The what if, really gets in the way of many offers. Some like to be asked, others like to be offered. Believe it or not, it takes the same amount of courage to ask, as it is to accept. The only hint you may have for a chance of another dance of the pieces, is seeing that green dot remaining on. Pace those rematches. Don't slap that rematch button too fast, or too late. Often the green dot and our temperament are the only cues we have to play a game.

A player might have more chances in rematches is they scan the lobby section. Those there are already showing what type of cadence they like to play. The rest is up to you. If the time control is not in the list, then try custom building your own like 0+5 and then wait to be lucky for a rematch. I was fortune, I got rematches with that time control, so I added that player to my friends list.

@RoShamPro said in #1:
> In my opinion it is bad manners to ask for a rematch after you've beaten someone that you were randomly matched up against. It should be possible for players to turn off rematch requests from other players.
your opinion is wrong

Due to language translations it's probably best to avoid words that sound like rebukes. A discussion needs more than answers like right, wrong, yes, no and maybe so. Justifying why, gives a form of quality to your post.

If a player really hammered that opponent mentally, do you really think it's a good thing to ask the opponent if they would like some more? (If they would like to get hurt again?) Cheaters request rematches without thinking of what they just did to the other player. All they are concerned about is winning. If you're human take the time to feel.

Depending on the environment, playing chess can hurt some people. Especially the vulnerable players that have a rating lower than your own. A player needs to compare ratings to realize who is the vulnerable one.

Players protect them selves by refusing rematches. (Like refusing candy from strangers)

Funny thing ... there are many threads with complaints that people deny rematches. No we have one who thinks rematching is impolite. See, you never can behave well.

But this:
@Toscani said in #16:
> Cheaters request rematches without thinking of what they just did to the other player. All they are concerned about is winning. If you're human take the time to feel.
is an offend. Now I am suspicious when I enjoyed a game and want the same opponent again?

There are places where men don't ask women to dance. It's the women that ask the men. Other places it's the opposite, the men ask the women. Then there are other places that say it's all old fashion and anyone can ask. It's the same for chess. Ask your rematch, revenge, or whatever you want to call it and expect to offend someone but not all.

Behavior is taught differently by different people. Some say respect is earned, while others say it's given. For me it's given, not earned. It all has to do with your life experiences. No matter how you phrase or word posts, there will always be someone offended or surprised. I apologize to the ones I offended. It was not intentional. @Sybotes

I do believe that most of the time an offer to play again should come from the lower rated player or from the player that lost.
It's not being snobbish, it's being polite.

But I likeRematch and if u don't like it, don't accept it, ez.

It seems like there are still players that enjoy harping on others.

They obviously don't understand the meaning of ... "Don't rub it in."
It's a no no to rub it in. If you won, then be a sport and wait for a challenge.

It's really quite simple to understand ...
You shouldn't really be able to rub it in after a win. Harping for another chance to rub it in again is mean.
Time to go, bye !